Sex Dating Games
No More Games; Dating Advice For Men
What does a woman want in a man? The truth is they arent going to tell us. Do not think for a moment however, that we won't be held accountable for not knowing. For this very reason I've spent uncountable hours observing the female Sex and becoming one with their mind by using my Jedi ninja powers. I now make available, for the first time ever, a mans guide to what women want out of us. Print these pages and make them your new bible but spend more time reading this one.
Girls want to be loved. When I say love I'm talking about love, Im talking about something that is unconditional. Love does not see flaws. Love does not seek to hurt the other person. Love is something that we do. Its an action verb. Its something that we can express and show. Love is a passion that you have for that girl. But it's still there even when the passion's cooled. They want us to love them for ever, to always show it. They want the kind of man that will still love them even when we dont particularly like them at the moment. They want a man that will make a commitment to them and stick with it. We've proven that we can commit guys. If we can stick by the same baseball or football team for our entire lives then what makes it so hard to love someone that actually shows love back? Love is not just a feeling that we have its something that we do. That's what the girls want. They want that kind of love. That's the number one thing.
Did you know that there are very few of them that haven't daydreamed about their weddings and what they're husbands are going to be like since they were little girls. They used sit around in little circles and actually discuss these things with other like-minded junior high girls. Make no mistake about it fellas, these girls at one time had a standard and while many will settle simply because they dont feel as if any of us can live up to it. They do have one, knowing what it is will make us much happier as well. Happy wife equals happy life. We need to not only start meeting that standard, we need to exceed it.
Women want to be swept off of their feet by a Prince Charming. Why would they use the word "prince"? There's a very simple answer if you think about it, they use the word because it fulfills the dream of being treated like a princess. To really figure out how all girls want to be treated you simply need to think of a princess or a queen and treat them that way. Even the most independent women want for us to be chivalrous. It's not too hard for us with all of our masculinity and brawn to hold open a car door or to pull out a chair. There are times when it might be cold but women want for us to care more about them then we do for ourselves. We need to offer them our coats. When they refuse it out of politeness we need to simply insist. Maybe a little white lie about us not being cold would be appropriate to make them feel better. We do not always need to be in control of the remote control or what movie were going to go see we can as men relinquish some control. Women want for us to do these things. They don't even expect these things anymore. Our gender has stepped so far away from where we should be that it's now impressive when we show that we care. Let's be chivalrous because they deserve it.
These girls want for us to spoil them. Even the ones that won't admit it secretly love it. Why don't we just drop by their work for no reason at all and surprise them with a bag of their favorite candy? Why don't we plan surprise dates and take them someplace they've never been or that could have significant meaning to us? Why don't we make a big deal out of them to our friends? Why don't we cuddle with them on the couch and watch the movies that they wanna watch while massaging the back of their neck and feet? Why don't we do all of these things and expect nothing in return except for the pleasure that we get from seeing them so happy? There are too many things that we just don't do anymore. It's what they want, lets give it to them.
This basically comes down to romance. Girls love it, and the sad fact is that many of us are romantically challenged. Just a few ideas that I thought of off the top of my head are to find out what her favorite flower is and then go online to starlistings.com and name a star after her and the flower. You could call it something like "Jennifers Iris". Starlistings.com will even send you a map to find the star. Then take her out one night to lie on a blanket and point out her star and give her the gift. Girls don't need expensive gifts to love us. If we can be creative and personal they will fall more in love with that star, then any 3 carat ring that we could buy them. It really is the thought that counts. Romance should not be saved only for special occasions or to get out of the doghouse. It should be something that we find a way to do every day.
We need to respect all of the girls in our lives. Too many of them have been in relationships with guys that feel like the sole purpose of their very existence is to cook our food, clean up after us and satisfy us in the bedroom. We don't show respect to these girls by verbally abusing them or telling them what they can and cannot do. We don't show them respect by hitting them or making them afraid to talk to other people. Would we treat our moms that way? We better not.
Respect does not equal fear, and it is not a sign of ownership or possession
RESPECT is thinking before you speak, trusting her, giving her the benefit of the doubt,
Listening to her putting her first in everything. Letting her have her space, her time, and her friends and allowing her to give you the same freedom. Respect is knowing who the other person is outside of your relationship and not losing your identity in the other person.
Girls want for us to stop treating them like the only thing that they're good for is Sex. As a matter of fact, I could basically stop after that sentence and have every female out there say, "Damn! He really does know women". Females are the fairer Sex for many reasons. They want to be loved or at least liked. Make no mistake, they like to have sex just as much as we do but very few want it with no strings attached. Even the ones that say they do. Girls have a proven chemical reaction with Sex. It's very emotional for them and it's all about the connection. Their hearts are a big factor in their decisions and they dont just shut their feelings off for a few hours. They do love sex but they don't always want to feel like they're the star of a porn movie. Sometimes they want to make love. We need to make sure that we know the difference between screwing and making love. There is a big difference.
I'm gonna get preachy for a second because this is important. We should not ever hit a woman. I don't care if she hit us first. I don't care what she said about the size of our manhood. I don't care if we just caught her cheating. I just dont care what the situation is. If we're going to call ourselves the stronger sex then we should be able to handle things like that without resorting to violence against women. If we can't learn to control our temper then we don't deserve a good woman. We deserve to be in jail or at the very least getting psychological help.
Our actions speak louder than words, is what I'm trying to say. We don't say I love you with a fist. We don't say I love you by saying words that are meant to hurt. Learn to walk away for a few minutes when angry and come back when you've cooled down. We need to let them know that we're coming back though. Girls dont wan't to be abandoned either.
Girls want for us to support their dreams just as much as they support ours. It does'nt matter what that dream is. They don't want for us to belittle their goals in any way. They want for us to make their dreams our dreams. At the very least they want someone to help them get there. They want for us to inspire them to be the best that they can. They' ll always return that favor. They want for us to be that one person who believes in them.
Girls want us to be confident in ourselves just like we want them to have that same quality. They don't want for us to be conceited though. What they want to see is a man that has a goal in life, feels like he can get there and that having her helps him completes that mission. Imagine that at the end of our days when we're taking account of our lives that not only are we happy with what we've done but that we acknowledge that we could not have done it without her. That's what they want.
They want for us to be confident in the bedroom and not fumbling around or apologizing during or after sex. They don't want for us to be concerned so much about our equipment. Just be sure that we know how to use it.
As I alluded to earlier girls have spent a good deal of their young lives dreaming about their adult life. Most of these dreams included being a mother and a wife. They can imagine watching their husband and their children outside in the yard playing. They've already daydreamed about you teaching the small ones how to catch and throw a ball or being carried on our shoulders in a theme park. These are the images that make these fair ladies of ours get all tingly inside.
They don't want for us to freak out when they talk about children or about the prospects of marriage. Even if this makes our pragmatic minds a little uneasy, we should at the very least try to not make this feeling so blatantly obvious. It only serves to make the girl think that shes wasting her time with us, being used or never going to have the things that she wants. However, if we truly never want these things then its fair that we let her know so that she can go and find a man that will give her the things that she wants out of her life. As much as it can hurt to let a good woman go it just isn't fair to keep her around for our own selfish needs.
They want for us to not be afraid to be affectionate in front of our friends. She wants for us to cuddle with her when out with the guys. She wants to be treated the same way in public that we would treat her in private. Girls not only want to feel special, they wants to have other people know that they're special too. We can't be afraid to show our friends how we feel about these girls that we like so much.
Just as we don't like to be cheated on, surprise! Neither do girls. I know that may surprise a few of us but it's true. If we can show them that we can be trusted then they'll give us the freedom in the relationship to have fun. We need to be loyal. You can't have five queens and expect to give them all your very best. Girls want our best.
Girls are so sick and tired of playing Dating games. They want to know who made up the rule that we need to wait three days after getting their phone number before we call them. Trust me when I tell you that they would probably beat that guy into a bloody pulp. KINDA' SCARY!!! They don't want for us to play games to find out if they like us or not. We don't have to try to make a girl jealous to see if she likes us. They'll let us know on their own and we dont have to pretend not to be interested just to make her more interested in us. What a stupid concept that is anyway for every one girl that might be intrigued that you aren't into them, ten will walk away simply because you aren't showing any interest in them. They know that some other guy will. If we still aren't sure if she likes us I suspect they like it when we just simply ask them. But the thing is, if you're out on a date then she saw something in you or she wouldn't be there. Think of that next time you aren't sure where you stand.
Girls want to feel safe and protected whenever they're with us. It's the same reason that they like to cuddle up and be so close. When we're together, holding one arm over them or linked at the arms, they just feel as if there's nothing in the world that can hurt them. We become a sanctuary and all of the problems of the world are, for that moment in time, gone. Nothing exists except for us and them. They need this feeling more than anything else, they dont want to be afraid of us. It's time for us to provide it that place that they can come to be safe.
Girls don't want for you to bring the problems from your last relationship over to the new one. We have got to remember that they are a different person. They aren't the one that cheated on you, they aren't the one who broke your heart. Please remember that. We need to trust this new person and if we can't trust them then we should'nt be with them. Don't hold any of the mistakes over her head that your last girlfriend made. Don't expect that she will make them as well. When we do that we set this relationship up for failure. We need to remember that we are starting fresh and not over. This is not a second chance at love, its a first chance to get love right.
This next part was actually added by a girl: I would heed these words very strongly:
"LET ME SIMPLIFY THIS FOR ALL THE GUYS OUT THERE
CHANCES ARE YOU CAN JUST TEL PAY CLOSE ATTENTION TO HER EYES, HER ACTIONS, HER BODY LANGUAGE, HER SMILE, YOU KNOW HOW IT GOES
TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, IF YOU THINK SHE IS SENDING YOU SIGNALS, ACT ON THEM
IF SHE DOESNT BITE THEN MOVE ON AND DONT GET DISCOURAGED OR UPSET BY IT
IF SHE GAVE YOU HER NUMBER, SHE WANTS YOU TO USE IT
CALL HER WHEN SHE IS ON YOUR MIND, NOT WHEN THE CALENDAR SAYS X MANY DAYS HAVE PASSED
IF SHE IS NOT ON YOUR MIND, YOU SHOULDNT HAVE ASKED FOR HER NUMBER
A SIDE NOTE FOR ALL THE LADIES, PLEASE BACK ME UP ON THIS!
IF YOU DONT HAVE ANY INTEREST IN THE GUY, LEAVE HIS POOR FEELINGS ALONE YES, HE DOES HAVE FEELINGS
ALSO, DONT GIVE OUT YOUR NUMBER IF YOU DONT WANT HIM TO USE IT
AND NO GIVING OUT THE NUMBER FOR THE PIZZA DELIVERY MAN OR YOUR EX BOYFRIEND!!! THATS SO CRUEL!!!"
At the end of all of this girls don't want to have us sit around talking about all of this stuff that they want to hear. They want for us to be men of action and stop talking and start being the men that we can be, start being the men that they need. Women love men of action.By Kristian Lee - One of the top bloggers on MySpace I write both witty and highly original articles. I also give advice on Dating, life and relationships. My radio talkshow is heard every saturday afternoon throughout the...
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